Seeking Happiness or Accept?

Hello there,

We all strive to be happier. If I win the contest I participated in, if I have more money, if I can have the house-car I want, if I can be with that girl-man… So we always pursue what we want, thinking that we will be happy if the things we want happen. So what exactly is happiness?

The definition of happiness is the state of joy, peace and tranquility. 

In other words, happiness is being happy and peaceful regardless of any conditions. However, we constantly reduce our possibility of being happy in the present by thinking that I will be more happy when this happens and more happy when etc.

For example, you want to publish a book and you think you will be very happy when you take out the book and sell it. Yes indeed, you can be quite happy when you take out that book and your sales multiply. Even unintentionally, you make yourself believe that you are not happy at that moment (enough) by thinking that your happiness at the moment you have this thought is lower than you can experience in the future. So what does this contribute to your thoughts? When I write this book and sell it, then I can be happy. Now you have created a process in which you will be unhappy for a long time. Of course, there will be little happiness, but you are so focused that you will be very happy at the end of the job (even if unintentionally) that most of the happiness you have now will not even be included in your memory.

With the thought of being happy in the future, you have prevented your current happiness. Well, at the end such a beautiful happiness will come, let's think that it will make up for it. Will such a thing really happen? Let's say you wrote the book, released it with the support of a publishing company and started selling. How many sales will you fully satisfy? 1 million? Then you will say that when I reach 1 million sales, will I be really happy? You have done the above-mentioned process of damaging the present happiness. When you make 1 million sales, this number will increase to 10 million, then to 100 million. So where is the limit? Unfortunately, you will not have a limit, you will want to publish the second book rather than a single book, and you will set yourself happiness goals based on your total book sales averages from now on.

What did we see in the example here? The person prevents himself from being happy by constantly sabotaging himself. However, what was the happiness; to be happy and peaceful. In this example, if our writer was happy to write a book without any limits on him, he would have written that book already, and he would be happy. It didn't matter whether he would put it on sale later or not, because his happiness would not depend on the sale and sale of the book, and therefore he would continue to be happy no matter what he did.

This is how we sabotage ourselves in our lives. He always acts by thinking that he is something that we will chase and catch and will be ours forever, and therefore we can never reach like a rabbit-carrot. In other words, yes, everyone can claim to be a little happy, but the moment we sets the condition for that great happiness he dreams of, that moment of great happiness never comes, it cannot come.

So what to do?

It is very simple to say, but unfortunately, it is not easy to put into practice. Just be happy and peaceful, live the moment. Do not carry the fear of the future on your back, the shadow of the past behind you. Recognize the moment you are in and be grateful for everything you have at that moment. Thank you a lot for everything you can do. When you are able to do these things, you will never be conditioned on your happiness, and the moment you do not, you realize that you are already happy and peaceful. Nothing can upset you, nothing can hurt you, nothing can bother you. The only person who can do these things to someone is the person himself. Your perspective on events and the way you think about them reveal your emotions and put you in that feeling.

You should realize that you are the only cause of every good and evil you have experienced, and you should know that you can reach you in the present as a result of every event that happened in the past. A person who is not satisfied with the state he is today will not be satisfied with tomorrow, either 1 year later. Love yourself and remember that all the good as well as the bad things that you have experienced make you into this person you love.

“The day that you stop running Is the day that you arrive” Morcheeba

We must end our pursuit of happiness and know that we already have it and that we can become happiness whenever we want. If you are not happy, you are the reason.

Sincerely,

See you soon.

Lastly..

“Happiness is not something to be pursued in order to obtain it and then made an effort not to lose. Happiness comes and touches you whenever it wants, regardless of you The important thing is enjoying that unique moment of contact.” Victor Hugo

Have you really tried enough?

Hello there,

We have all heard the saying that sometimes you need to lose first to be successful. However, when you fail, people can lose hope. We have to keep trying more. There is a knowledge that we all live and forget over time; “No matter where in the world, a baby drops an average of 200 times before he learns to walk. "

People read a lot of books, watch movies, get an education to be successful, but when the effects are not repeated, they slowly become forgotten. This knowledge is something we all know by experiencing it on our own. However, as long as we do not address the failures over time, we can even forget this knowledge we know and experience. After failing 1-2 times in an action we decide to do, the vast majority of us give up immediately and do not try again. However, this process does not progress in this way at all during infancy.

When a baby begins walking trials, his family supports the baby with all his might. They lift it every time it drops and encourages it to try again. If a baby has no physical disabilities, he/she never stops trying to walk, and every baby, without exception, eventually achieves it. The fact that a person that cannot even turn left and right while lying on the ground when it is born begins to walk in a balanced way on both legs is a much more difficult action than any experience that a person may encounter later in his/her life.

Falling hurts the baby physically as well as the feeling of failure, which is a reason for giving up on its own. However, the baby never stops trying, no matter how painful it hurts.

After the childhood phase, things change completely in terms of our environment. Nobody, including our family, will support us in a matter we want to do, that we should continue after 1-2 failures. Beyond providing support, they make you believe that you cannot do this with negative speeches even in the first attempts, and if a person believes in something once, unfortunately, you cannot explain that the issue is not.

As we grow up, we forget the "secrets of success" that we knew very well from the very beginning. We keep trying to learn again. Millions of people around the world die before they can learn again, or they have done jobs or hobbies that are way beyond their capacity.

Perhaps the biggest reason for the family or those around us to encourage walking is that they too have passed that route and know that if they try, the baby can succeed. That's why they try to help us walk by holding our hands with great effort. In other decisions in life, because they do not have this kind of experience, they approach the suspicion of "I guess it won't happen, let it be ..." when we have two failures. After making a decision, if we try it 200 times without paying attention to the environment and with the same determination, we will be surprised by the result and have made a great discovery.

If starting a job is half of a job, believing that you can do that job is the other half. If we continue to work without giving up, we are hardly likely to fail. I hope we never stop trying. Remember, if we try at least 200 times with the same determination without listening to anyone's negative opinions, we will reach the result and experience great pleasure.

Keep faith, 

See you soon.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

Hello there,

As you know, the aphorism in the title belongs to Nietzsche. I think it is one of the most powerful aphorisms that describes life in such a simple way. Normally, when one hears this phrase for the first time, it comes to the mind that after being under difficult conditions, one will have better conditions, which yes actually includes this meaning. But apart from that, it actually provides information about almost all of life.

For example, consider diseases. Smallpox has been quite deadly for many people, especially in recent ages. However, it has been discovered that if you survive the disease, it does not infect you again. So if it doesn't kill you, it removes your risk of getting caught again and makes you strong in this regard. As a result of research on this, smallpox vaccine was found and today, smallpox is almost never left all over the world.

Let's say you decide to do sports. The day you first start exercising, if you put out all your strength, your muscles may eventually suffer irreversible damage. An adverse movement done outside of sports can also cause this muscle damage. However, if you do the movement as it should be, without forcing it to the end, the muscles in the area where you are moving will be slightly fragmented but you will not see a high damage. Moreover, with this slight disintegration, with the support of your cells in that area, better quality muscle cells are produced compared to those that are broken down. And in this way, the area you work on will have healthier and stronger muscles.

There are highly toxic animals in some areas. The poison injected into you with a tiny bite can cause you to die in a very short time. In such areas, poisons taken from animals are given to humans in small doses from certain ages and people are made immune to that venom. A poison that can kill another person within 5 minutes causes only effects such as itching and pain in immunized people.

Allergy treatment is actually the same. If there is an allergy to a particular animal or plant, the protein cell of that animal is given as a serum with small doses under the doctor's control, and it can completely eliminate your allergy within 3-5 years.

If we consider it to be success, according to a research conducted in recent years, it has been revealed that people who do not get enough support at the beginning of their career are more successful in the future than those who can get support. In other words, the initial depressions, lack of resources-like effects make the person stronger in some way and the success of these people will be higher in the future. (Related scientific article: shorturl.at/rsCIZ)

Based on the examples I have given above, whatever you go through in your life, do not let yourself be overwhelmed by sadness. If you do that, you're kind of dead actually. However, if you accept the negative condition you live in and try again in different ways, it will be inevitable that you will be much more successful, healthy and rich in the future. Never despair. Know that every bad event that happens to you will make you stronger, and build your future accordingly. Believe me, you will see that nothing can upset you if you live this way. (Nobody can upset you anyway, a person can only upset himself, I will write this in detail at a different time.) As a person is peaceful and happy, his brain works better and makes stronger decisions. Since there will be no stress in peace, the immune system works better and therefore it becomes healthier.

Hope you always stay in peace, 

See you soon.